We’ve all been there—that moment when your spouse, best friend, leader or parent corrects you. Everything inside you wants to rise up and justify your behavior, the why that they just don’t understand. But I’ve found that truth told in love from a wise person who we have invited to speak into our life is extremely important if we are going to continue to grow in our faith. See, we all have blind-spots, we all have weakness, we all have struggles, and God has given us a community to help us, to encourage us, to strengthen us and to grow us!
I remember a time when my husband spoke to me about a particular issue in my life, and boy, did I want to rebuke him in the name of Jesus! But the Holy Spirit gently agreed with him and showed me that he was indeed right! I needed to change this area of my life and align it with the word of God. I praise God today that I had a husband who was confident enough to love me in truth because a slight adjustment in that area has brought so much fruit into our life. I know you’re all wanting me to share the details, but it was hard enough to hear it from him—I don’t need you all to see my dirty laundry too, haha!!
In order to receive the truth we must be confident in knowing we are completely loved and accepted by the Father. If we do not have full security in who we are in Christ, then it will be extremely difficult to receive the truth spoken in love. Our defenses will rise up, we will snap, we will justify our actions because we will feel attacked. But a person who is growing in Christ knows how to receive truth when needed. Because the truth grows us!
2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness”. A wise person says to a trusted leader or friend, “Teach me how to live!”, rather than “I know exactly what I am doing!”
All moms know that children’s bodies grow while they sleep. Both my sons have had growing pains over the years, where they will wake in the middle of the night screaming in pain clutching their legs! You feel pretty helpless as a parent as it’s simply a right-of-passage in life, and there is not much you can do about it. Growth requires a bit of pain, a capacity stretch, a lengthening, a strengthening. In the moment, it is horrible but when my boys are twenty, they will be glad that they are not the same height they were at three- and six-years-old! You and I are the same—we need to grow so that next month, next year, in ten years, we aren’t battling the same issues we are currently dealing with.
Hebrews 6:1 says, “Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity, not laying again the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death.” As believers God gives us gifts to grow us in life, but those gifts often don’t look like gifts! But as we submit ourselves to the Holy Spirit and open our ear to godly, trusted counsel, we will find ourselves growing spiritually and moving away from “acts that lead to death” and moving toward a life growing into the full stature that Christ intends for us as women of God—fruitful in every area, growing spiritually, rooted in Christ and being built up in Him.
Let’s be confident enough to receive a word spoken in wisdom, even when it hurts! And in so doing, may we see a huge harvest of souls this side of eternity in NYC!