I’m the realist. The girl who says it how it is and appreciates others who do the same. I value truth and justice, and there’s nothing I dislike more than having the wool pulled over my eyes. I find such satisfaction in calling a spade a spade! I love when people don’t beat around the bush! But when a realist encounters a God who operates in the realm of faith—well that’s real!! The Christian life is a life of faith. What is faith? The Bible says,“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1).
Hebrews 11 is a well known passage of scripture in which the writer encourages us as believers to be people of faith in our everyday life. Not just people of “faith” as a general identity or title, not just people who would say “I have a faith” or “I believe in Jesus”—but people whose faith is truly informing the way we live our lives. This scripture says the difference between living a life of faith, and just professing a life of faith with our words is confidence. A deep-seated confidence that Jesus is in fact, who He says He is. A confidence in what we hope for!
The definition of confidence is “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.” In a world where feminine self-confidence is celebrated, coveted and desired, if there is any type of confidence we should be striving for, it is confidence in God! A firm trust—not in ourselves—but in our God!
A great way to find out what we have put our confidence in as women is to do a little self-analysis. Ask yourself:
What am I saying? Do I speak words of confident hope? Or do I speak worry and fear? If your confidence is in your self then you might find you are speaking death not life, but when you put that confidence in God, you’ll find you can speak words of hopeful faith.
What am I thinking? Am I thinking thoughts of confident hope or of despair? What am I doing? Am I living life in a way that speaks loudly of a faithful God or am I living my life in a way that whispers uncertainty and doubt?
If your analysis came up with some less-than-desired results (girl, trust me—you’re not alone!), then don’t try to change your behavior. You’ve got to go to the root, not the symptom. What lie is keeping you from confident hope? Get with a friend, find it, ask God to reveal it, define it and then call it out as the lie that it is and realign once again to how Jesus sees you. Then continually realign daily.
Having faith in Jesus has transformed this realist’s life!! Having firm trust that He is who He says He is, has transformed me into someone who is able to call a situation what it is—because becoming a Christian isn’t a lobotomy and you are still you! But then speak life and confident hope into the situation. We are not called to be believers who don’t believe. The most important thing you can do as a believer is believe! If you are doing everything else a Christian apparently should do but you aren’t believing, then my friend can I encourage you to reset, realign and reinvigorate your faith! To magnify God, see Him for who He is—all-powerful, loving, ever present help in times of trouble! In a world riddled with anxiety and fear, your greatest gift as a believer, your greatest gift to this broken world, is the ability to believe.
Let’s be women who allow our faith to permeate every area of our lives—our perspective, our vision, our language, our worst fears, our problems, our struggles, our failures, our hopes, our dreams, our desires…all the beautiful complex wonder that is you can be washed with “confidence in what you hope for” today. This confidence emboldens, transforms, heals, brings hope and creates the future. As we truly see Jesus, really see Him for who He is, we will find we have confidence in what we hope for and assurance of what we do not see.
This kind of faith has a contagious quality to it. So if you’re not there yet, if you’re living in the realm of doubt and despair and you can’t seem to get out, that’s why there is a community of women around you. Your sister’s faith will carry you out of doubt and despair and into the land of confidence, belief and hope.
You are deeply loved, deeply cared for, deeply known by a loving Father who has extraordinary plans for your life.