As a young person I struggled with a lack of confidence. As a preschooler, I was so shy that the teacher had to hold me in her arms for the class photo—I still remember the all-consuming tension that would rise in my body as I walked in the doors of my preschool. Fast forward to elementary school and middle school, I was always shy in class and petrified that I would be called on to answer a question. I had learning difficulties as a young school student, and I was so embarrassed at being caught out without knowing an answer that it was almost paralyzing at times.
Now when I tell people these stories and explain that I’m an introvert, often they look surprised and confused. Just this past Friday, I spoke in front of 800 women, and I speak almost every week on platform in front of hundreds of people. This from a girl who would dread the teacher calling on her? It doesn’t add up.
But that’s what God does. He takes our weakest parts, our most challenging areas, our most embarrassing situations and breathes His life, ability and strength into them. He transforms weakness into strength.
2 Corinthians 12:9 says,
But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
The Word of God is saying His power is actually made perfect in our weakness. So His power within us is more perfect and pure when we are weak! That is some seriously good news right there! A religious spirit tries to tell us we need to be perfect in order to be used by God, but the Word of God is saying the opposite! The mind of the flesh is looking for escape from weakness, not power in weakness. When I’m incapable of doing something, that’s when I am in need of Him the most, so I’ve found that’s why God loves to use the weak because we have no choice but to rely on Him completely.
As women we may lack confidence in a natural sense, and that’s okay. As believers we have access to godly confidence—this is a confidence not based on our own merit or ability but based on who our God is and who our God says we are! This is a confidence that stems from knowing how much Jesus loves us and values us as women.
Godly confidence isn’t fake or hype, it’s not always loud, and it’s not boastful. It’s a grounded confidence, a confidence that isn’t circumstantial but rather remains through the seasons of life. It’s a confidence that doesn’t waiver based on the opinion of man or how successful we are on any given day. It is not dependent on our relationship status or job situation or whether someone complimented us that day. Godly confidence is a higher level of confidence because it is sourced from a higher power! In life we try to gain confidence from a myriad of things, we often gain confidence through comparing ourselves to someone else’s failure or lack, but godly confidence is only sourced from one place—Jesus. As we “fix our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith” (Hebrews 12:2), as we spend time with Him, find space with Him, talk to Him, listen to Him, get to know Him in His Word and discover His faithfulness, His jealous love for us, His passion towards us, we will find Godly confidence rises within us, a confidence based on who He is, not who we are.
They say confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a woman can have, but Godly confidence is on another level completely! It's simply magnetic in every way! It draws people toward the grace, love and truth of Jesus Christ. Let’s be women who radiate godly confidence in our day-to-day living, trusting not in our own ability or merit but in the Father’s endless empowering grace, love and faithfulness.